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How to send and receive messages

Seeing messages

New messages now appear along with someone's profile information on DoubleTake and on their full profile page.  If you like their message and profile, click to "Like" them and the message will move to your conversations page, where you can reply to them. 

This way, you're only seeing conversations from people you're interested in. If you see a message and profile from someone you don't like, Pass on them and that message won't go to your conversations page. 

Seeing new messages on DoubleTake

DoubleTake (the swipe interface on the app) shows you profiles one at a time.

If someone has sent you a message, you'll see "They messaged you!" along with their photos - we always make sure you know who has messaged you, and we put them towards the top of your DoubleTake queue if they sent you a message, so you won't miss them!

On the app, tap on the DoubleTake card to view their full profile. From there, you'll see the message they sent you right below their photos.

On the web, you'll see the message below the photos on DoubleTake automatically; you can also click "View Profile" to jump to their full profile. 

Seeing new messages from Match Search/Discovery

You can also see messages in Browse Matches (the magnifying glass icon on the app).

Anyone who has sent you a message will have blue around their photo in your search results. We'll place them towards the top so you don't miss them.

To see their profile and the message they sent you, click/tap on the thumbnail icon to see their full profile. 

Replying to messages

As soon as you Like someone, the message will move to your conversations page (the speech bubble icon on the app). You can also reply to the message right from their profile page! 

Sending messages

‚ÄčOn OkCupid, anyone can send and receive messages for free! Messages are sorted by Liking profiles, so you only see messages from people you're interested in. 

1. Like them
If you Like each other, we'll always let both of you know for FREE right away.

From DoubleTake, swipe right or click the star icon.

From Match Search/Discovery, visit their profile, and click/tap the Like button to bring up the message button.

2. Visit their profile and send a message

To find a profile you've liked, visit the Who You Like page (the star icon on the app).

Once you've liked someone, you'll see a "message" button on their profile. Click to compose a message and send! Please note: You can only send one initial message, so make it a good one! 

If the other person hasn't liked you yet, you won't see their profile (or your sent message) until they like you back. 

3. Wait for their response

Once you've messaged someone, we'll make sure to promote you to the person around the site so you catch their eye! They will see you in DoubleTake and elsewhere around OkCupid, and can look at your profile and your message together at the same time. If they're interested in you, they can Like you back. This will move your message to the "conversations" page for both of you, so you can write to each other any time. 

You can read more about changes to our messaging system in our blog post.