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How to send and receive messages

Seeing messages


New messages now appear along with someone's profile information on DoubleTake and on their full profile page.  If you like their message and profile, click to "Like" them and the message will move to your conversations page, where you can reply to them. 

This way, you're only seeing conversations from people you're interested in. If you see a message and profile from someone you don't like, Pass on them and you'll never see either again. 

Seeing new messages on DoubleTake

Double take shows you profiles one at a time (it's the "swipe" part of the app with the cards icon, or http://www.okcupid.com/doubletake on the web).

If someone has sent you a message, you'll see "They messaged you!" over their photos - we always make sure you know who has messaged you, and we put them towards the top of your DoubleTake queue if they sent you a message, so you won't miss them!

From the app, Click on the DoubleTake card to click through to the full profile. From there, you'll see the message they sent you right below their photos.

On the web, you'll see the message below the photos on DoubleTake automatically. 

Seeing new messages from Match Search

Match search is at http://okcupid.com/match or the "magnifying glass" icon on the app. 

Anyone who has sent you a message will have blue around their photo in your search results, so you can see they sent you a message. We'll place them towards the top so you don't miss them.

To see their profile and the message they sent you, click on the thumbnail icon to see their full profile. 

Replying to messages

As soon as you Like someone, the message will move to the conversations page (speech bubble icon on the app, or https://www.okcupid.com/messages on the web). You can also reply to the message right from their profile page! 

Sending messages


‚ÄčOn OkCupid, anyone can send and receive messages for free! Messages are sorted by Liking profiles, so you only see messages from people you're interested in. 

1. Like them
Liking helps get you connected! If you Like someone, they're more likely to see you around OkCupid. And if you Like each other, we'll always let both of you know for FREE right away.

From DoubleTake, swipe right or click the star icon.

If you're using Match Search or discovery, click through to their profile page, then click the "Like" button on the top right.

2. Visit their profile and send a message

Once you've liked someone, you'll see a "message" button on their profile. Click to compose a message and send! 
Note: You can only send one initial message, so make it a good one! 

To find a profile if you've liked them, visit the Who You Like page (from the star icon).

You'll also see a link to their profile pop up after you've liked them on DoubleTake on the web.


3. Wait for their response

Once you've messaged someone, we'll make sure to promote you to the person around the site so you catch their eye! They will see you in DoubleTake and elsewhere around the site, and can look at your profile and your message together at the same time. If they're interested in you, they can Like you back. This will move your message to the "conversations" page for both of you, so you can write to each other any time.