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Community Guidelines

OkCupid Community Guidelines

Relationships are the center of the human experience — these connections, in all of their wonderful combinations and varieties, are, quite literally, the foundation of humanity. At OkCupid, it is our mission to provide our members with an environment that’s friendly, safe, and welcoming to everyone in their search for love.

How we prevent harassment:

Before you can interact with the OkCupid community you must first agree not to send any harassing or unwanted, sexually explicit messages. We’re the first site to do so. 



In addition to our Member Pledge, we also show you prompts when you compose a message:



We also have a machine learning AI tool which looks at the text of reported messages and prompts you to report a message that may include harassing or overly sexual speech:



(Please note that the AI does make mistakes, so if you sent a nice message but it got picked up by the AI, don't be insulted! The person who you messaged can just click “No, this is fine” and our system will learn for next time.)

Harassing messages:

If you wouldn’t say it to someone you just met at a bar, you shouldn’t be saying it online. Messages should be respectful, appropriate, honest, and kind. We don't tolerate "negging" (insulting statements disguised as "flirting") or other rude behavior.

While talking about sex on OkCupid is not completely forbidden, make sure to know your audience. Don't send a sexually explicit first message to someone. The vast majority of people want to get to know you first. We will ban you for sending unwanted sexually explicit messages.



We take the truth of everyone’s inalienable rights very seriously. Our belief in them has acted as our inspiration since our founding. We proudly stand rooted in inclusivity. There is no room for hate in a place where you’re looking for love.

We have zero tolerance for hate speech or attacks on vulnerable groups on OkCupid.  Any messages, photos, profile text, or other content that promotes or condones violence against individuals or groups based on things like race or ethnicity, religion, disability, age, nationality, sexual orientation, gender or gender identity, or appearance is strictly forbidden and may result in you being permanently banned. This includes symbols of hate groups in photos, hateful slurs, offensive messages, and hate group keywords in profile text. 


Fake Accounts and solicitation

We do not tolerate any kind of fake accounts on OkCupid. All profiles must be really of you, and must be for dating purposes. Creating a fake account will get your main account as well as the fake account(s) banned. 

Using OkCupid for commercial solicitation or exchange of money is prohibited. Do not share your own financial information (PayPal, Venmo, Amazon wishlist, etc.) for the purpose of receiving money or goods from other members. Do not attempt to get other member's financial or other private information. Do not send messages or create accounts for the purpose of driving members to a business or external site. Doing any of these will get you banned.

Contact information

While the goal of OkCupid is to get you out in the world going on dates, it's always good to be cautious when exchanging contact info. A sign of a scammer, fake account, or someone up to no good is when they are in a hurry to give you their offsite contact info too quickly. This could be because they want to get you away from OkCupid so they can continue talking with you even after we ban them, or they are sharing someone else's contact info to get revenge on them. 

If something seems strange about the way someone is exchanging contact info, or if they are displaying a phone number or email address prominently on their profile or photos, please report. 

Illegal behavior

It should go without saying, but discussion or promotion of anything illegal is not allowed and will result in getting you banned. This includes illegal sexual acts, drug dealing, fraud, threats, or anything else that is against the law. We do not tolerate any kind of discussion about underage sex, including dd/lg fantasies.



You must be 18 to use OkCupid. We do not allow minors to use OkCupid. If you suspect a profile of being made by someone who is under 18, please report them to us. 



Photos should be of you (profile photo album), or pictures you've taken (elsewhere). 

We do not allow any photos with full nudity (no nipples, no genitalia), or overly sexual photos even if there is no full nudity. Would you appear this way in public? Is the context appropriate? Posting a photo against these rules will get you banned.

We also do not allow any hateful imagery (white power/ nazi images, racist meme photos, etc). This will get you banned. Any photos of anything overly violent, offensive, illegal, disturbing, or otherwise inappropriate for a dating site will be removed and may also get you banned. 

Finally, we will remove any image where the copyright holder has asked to have it removed, or where we strongly suspect the user is not the copyright holder (e.g., stock photos). For multiple offenses or extreme cases, profiles may also be banned and removed.


Offsite behavior

We do ban for offsite behavior as well. Please report any instances of abuse, assault, harassment, stalking, theft, or anything else illegal or that makes you feel unsafe.

In these cases, we encourage you to reach out to law enforcement as well, who we will cooperate with where needed.  



Please help us keep OkCupid safe and fun to be on by reporting anything or anyone that does not follow our community guidelines. 

You can report a profile by clicking the three dots icon to bring up a report button. 


On the app, the menu icon looks like this:


We also know that people always find new and interesting ways to bend the rules, so while our community guidelines cover most instances of moderator action, it is not an exhaustive list, and we do retain the right to ban anyone from OkCupid for any reason if we see fit.


Read more about reporting here.