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First names on OkCupid instead of usernames

Dating (and hooking up and friendship) is more personal than a username. We want to make interactions here more human, and part of that is introducing yourself as you would in real life. Interactions on OkCupid are interactions between real people, and using first names is one good way to remember that.

Of course, we also want OkCupid to be a safe and happy place for everyone. We're not asking for your full, legal name. You can use a nickname if you'd like, or initials, or anything you'd like to be called by your date. 

If you'd prefer a greater degree of anonymity than that, we do offer Incognito Mode, which hides your profile from anyone unless you like or message them. You can find out more here.

In any case, if anyone on OkCupid gives you any cause for concern, either for behavior on OkCupid or in real life, please let us know so our moderators can look into the account right away. You can report anyone from their profile or from your conversation with them in the messages page. We take reports of inappropriate behavior very seriously.

You can read more on our blog post.