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How to send a message / introduction

We think it's best when conversations are between people who are interested in each other. However, on OkCupid (unlike other sites) you have the opportunity to send an introduction to someone before they've liked you. This means when they first see you, they'll see your full profile and your introduction at the same time, which is a great way to pique their interest.

How to send that first introduction to someone:

1. Like them

From DoubleTake, swipe right or click the star icon.

From Match Search/Discovery, visit their profile, and click/tap the Like button to bring up the message button.

If you Like each other, we'll always let both of you know for FREE right away.

2. Visit their profile and send a message

To find a profile you've liked, visit the Who You Like page (the star icon on the app).

Once you've liked someone, you'll see a "message" button on their profile. Click to compose an introductory message and send! Please note: You can only send one initial message, so make it a good one! 

If the other person hasn't liked you yet, you won't see their profile (or your sent message) until they like you back. This is so you don't waste your time on people you've already reached out to. 

3. Wait for their response

Once you've messaged someone, we'll make sure to promote you to the person around the site so you catch their eye! We always make sure people who have sent introductions get moved towards the front of DoubleTake.

The person you've reached out to will see you in DoubleTake and elsewhere around OkCupid, and can look at your profile and your introduction together at the same time.

If they're interested in you, they can Like you back. This will move your message to the "conversations" page for both of you, so you can write to each other any time. You'll also get a notification that they wrote to you and Liked your profile.