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How to send a message

On OkCupid, anyone can send and receive messages for free! Messages are sorted by Liking profiles, so you only see messages from people you're interested in. 

1. Like them
Liking helps get you connected! If you Like someone, they're more likely to see you around OkCupid. And if you Like each other, we'll always let both of you know for FREE right away.

From DoubleTake, swipe right or click the star icon.

If you're using Match Search or discovery, click through to their profile page, then click the "Like" button on the top right.

2. Visit their profile and send a message

Once you've liked someone, you'll see a "message" button on their profile. Click to compose a message and send! 
Note: You can only send one initial message, so make it a good one! 

To find a profile if you've liked them, visit the Who You Like page (from the star icon).

You'll also see a link to their profile pop up after you've liked them on DoubleTake on the web.

3. Wait for their response

Once you've messaged someone, we'll make sure to promote you to the person around the site so you catch their eye! They will see you in DoubleTake and elsewhere around the site, and can look at your profile and your message together at the same time. If they're interested in you, they can Like you back. This will move your message to the "conversations" page for both of you, so you can write to each other any time.