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How to send a message

On OkCupid, anyone can send and receive messages for free! Messages are sorted by Liking profiles, so you only see messages from people you're interested in. 

1. Like them
If you Like each other, we'll always let both of you know for FREE right away.

From DoubleTake, swipe right or click the star icon.

From Match Search/Discovery, visit their profile, and click/tap the Like button to bring up the message button.

2. Visit their profile and send a message

To find a profile you've liked, visit the Who You Like page (the star icon on the app).

Once you've liked someone, you'll see a "message" button on their profile. Click to compose a message and send! Please note: You can only send one initial message, so make it a good one! 

If the other person hasn't liked you yet, you won't see their profile (or your sent message) until they like you back. 

3. Wait for their response

Once you've messaged someone, we'll make sure to promote you to the person around the site so you catch their eye! They will see you in DoubleTake and elsewhere around OkCupid, and can look at your profile and your message together at the same time. If they're interested in you, they can Like you back. This will move your message to the "conversations" page for both of you, so you can write to each other any time.